@benj89 benj89 wrote:notification
This is going to be a long read. Grab a beer, glass of wine, whisky, or whatever your drink of choice is.
Not sure why you are playing the victim here.
I’m not playing the victim. Not sure why you think I am. Please clarify.
You actually used the words “idiocy” and “dumb” to describe me at first.
Did I? Am I to assume that you are over the age of 25 then?
If so, then I still did not call you those things. I heavily implied that the actions (writings) were dumb. I try not to call people names. I call their actions how I see them. If you feel offended by that, then I apologize for any slight that you may have felt. Nonetheless, I do think that it was ridiculous and I don’t take back what I said.
I didn’t mean to put you in a box, just that your comment was anti-free speech and it reminded me of all these SJWs.
No, my comments were not anti-free speech. Show me how. I am very much in favor of free speech and any consequences that may arise from said speech.
Yea, I should have added “are inclined to” before each statement, it would have been more accurate indeed. I could have also mentioned that my life experience doesn’t follow the central limit theorem therefore I can’t interpret it as the population. Not sure what you meant with the bell curve.
I mean, you don’t have to say it before every sentence, but maybe starting your writing with that, or scattering it around in the writing so that it’s clear that you’re talking about averages and such. With regards to the bell curve, I was talking about the normal distribution and how there are always extremes on the each end, but the majority (or average, if you will), are clustered in the middle.
I do believe that OP wrote something dumb and I just replied common sense to her, but I tried to show empathy and derailed on what I felt was a more interesting subject.
But she didn’t write anything dumb! She was venting and sharing a negative experience. Perhaps your derailment would have been much better suited in a new thread. But then, of course, we may not have had this conversation. (Which I’m hoping that we both can learn from
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Also because that's nice to see women speaking up, I myself only met one in years playing aoe ("do you wanna play with a girl?").
Lol! I’ve seen that person before. Is she really a she? Seems a bit bizarre, but to each their own.
However anyone who’s been online more than a few months know that gender is an excuse for flaming. Boys do tend to flame and fight, it translates into another form of fighting when they grow up, that’s the way they are. Therefore a complaint about retard in the chat being less retard would have been more accurate than making it a gender issue. At least that's how I see it.
Hmm, but the individual wasn’t being rude just because. He was being an ass because she’s a woman. I wasn’t there, but this is what’s being told and confirmed. I mean, saying that someone is only playing with another person because they’re a female is a pretty big indication. Not all boys flame and fight. I believe that insecurity plays quite a large role here.
Everyone does objectify so we disagree here, but I’m not interested in arguing about that.
No? If you change your mind, please tell me how you define objectification.
I’d just think you’re screwed since surgery won’t make you cuter, c.f. how it went for megan fox.
I don’t understand the reference...don’t really follow celebrities. I’m assuming she was attractive, got plastic surgery and became unattractive to you…?
I agree with all the rest of your message
Well, I’m certainly glad we found some common ground here.
Generally speaking, I do believe men care more about women’s physique than the opposite when considering a meaningful relationship.
Really? I mean, I’m not a man so obviously I can’t go with firsthand knowledge here, but I would think that if someone was looking for a meaningful relationship, attractiveness wouldn’t be their top priority. Looks fade with time, who someone is is far more important. Many men, even here on this forum, appear to agree with this.
I don’t think he said that the only difference between women is their appearance. From what I remember he said that he considered physique to be very important in a woman, that they gossip more and are less interested in sciences than men. Could you quote where he said that appearance is the only difference between women and that it’s how they should be valued and judged?
Sure thing, but they’re a bit lengthy so I’m using links instead:
viewtopic.php?f=181&t=9183&start=100#p198482viewtopic.php?f=181&t=9183&start=150#p198634viewtopic.php?f=181&t=9183&start=175#p198761I mean, yeah, he didn’t use those exact words, hence why I didn’t use quotation marks. Those were my words paraphrasing what I read from those posts. I also completely disagree with his characterizations of women and don’t identify with them at all.
Most male teenagers are sexually frustrated. It has nothing to do with luck, more with the fact that when a guy is 15 he feels like having sex with everything that moves and looks like a female, mostly due to testosterone levels I believe, which differ among every male.
I have certainly heard this, but alas, I have never been a male teen so I have no experience to draw from in this regard. I do know that science back this up as well. However, it does somewhat have to do with luck considering the entire social clusterfuck that is being a teenager. (If you're a teenager reading this, just know that life gets much better.)
I actually had to google what red pill/pua means, however I’ve noticed this “game” irl as I previously mentioned.
Did you really? That’s crazy to me, it’s been around for quite some time. This “game” only works on women who want to be seduced and/or want to have sex. Additionally, it’s incredibly fucked up to attempt to seduce someone simply for the gain of sex. I mean, it’s a pretty serious con - fucking with someone’s emotions for a quick lay.
About the trophy or piece of shit, I believe you’re talking about a small minority of guys. I could probably find at least as much women forums trash talking about men and the patriarchy. Not sure though, the only time I opened reddit was to get the alphabay market link.
Well sure, I believe I specifically said some. However, I don't think it's a small minority, just a minority. And yes, there are feminist extremists out there, but I don't think that they are in any way equal in number. I used to be one until ironically I took a feminist theory class many years ago and recognized a deep flaw in myself. I've called them out several times. I prefer the term “egalitarian” for myself simply because “feminist” can be defined and interpreted in many different ways.
About these guys, I believe they literally apply what I talked about, putting reason before passion. I'd guess they don't only consider physique but something similar than what I talked about, but again never read the theory behind it. I only opened a wikipedia page with the words they use and found it amusing.
Oh dear, I sincerely hope that I haven’t created a monster. No, they aren’t using reason before passion. They’re using their drive for sex to lie and attempt to coerce women into fucking them.
Yea, you’ve reacted based on feelings and personal experience. However, if you try to get an objective understanding of the situation, you might realize that women don’t have more problem than guys online. They probably do feel more often threatened, because more sensitive. At least that's how I see it, I might be completely wrong and any male online is an avid reader of the red pill/pua stuff you mentioned. Reality probably lies between what you and I believe to be true.
Hmm, I think I understand where you are coming from with this. You believe that men are equally affected by online issues as women? This may be true, I’m not a man so I can’t 100% understand the issues that men face online. But do men frequently get questioned and criticized about being a man online, particularly in gaming communities? This is the difference, women get hit with all the stuff that men get hit with, plus we get hit with our “femaleness”. I’m actually super fucking sensitive, but don’t often feel threatened online, which makes me think that there are some very serious issues that we women face, but it stems from a minority, but most vocal individuals. I’m not diminishing the negative experiences that other women have, I’m simply expressing my opinion on my experience. Does this make sense?
I never implied that every male online is an avid reader of those sites. That would be a ridiculous thing for me to say since I don't think that all.
If you are from the US, I will ask you a similar question that I asked to Umeu about his sister suffering from racism in the US: could you develop on how being a women negatively impacted your life so far?
I most certainly could develop on this, but honestly, it’s all way too personal to share here. I can think about it longer and see if there’s anything I could share that wouldn’t be too personal. If I think of anything, I’ll share.
I wasn’t being sarcastic. When I am, I try to make it obvious/funny. I don’t like passive aggressive comments. More listening less talking sounds like a good concept though.
I have found it to be an excellent way of living life. If everyone is talking, no one is listening.