Gendarme wrote:@
gibson That is a demand. And no, you don't have to be considerate to be in a community, especially not one consisting purely of strangers (which outside of the internet wouldn't be considered a community). The share of people valuing these internet-acquaintances and perceiving the interactions close to equal to those of real life are obviously overrepresented in gaming communities, but you are very mistaken to think of this as a universal truth. A person from a real community being rude to you is extremely different to someone on this forum being rude, because the people here are virtual strangers. You'll learn a lot more about the people during one day in Amsterdam than you have during two years on ESOC.
I'm not really sure what you're arguing anymore.
The original post was about somebody who made a donation, and then had their email address shared with other strangers. He said that made him feel uncomfortable.
This is something that would also make me uncomfortable and is discouraging me from donating. You can call us "overly sensitive" as much as you want, but requesting privacy is quite fundamental in an online setting where we may not want our name linked to our online or gaming habits. For many of you that may not be an issue - but it doesn't mean that nobody is allowed to care about their privacy.
If you get significantly offended by a stranger—especially one who is not in your physical presence—you are very insecure and that is the problem, not the fact that there exists a rude person who happened to interact with you. Social incapability leads to seeking refuge and friendship on the internet, and this is why we are having this discussion in the first place. None of the reasons for why being rude towards acquaintances or even strangers is offensive in the real life apply to this forum; the only reason you would take offense from the average ESOCian is purely because you are overly sensitive. Drawing parallells with real life (e.g. relationships, workplace, and common courtesy like Voodoo did) is just misguided.
This is so false I don't even know where to start. Communities are responsible for the culture within them - saying you shouldn't be offended by rudeness and hence we should ignore it completely disregards the fact
that we may want to build a respectful community. I would much rather play with people who I get along with than those who are rude to me - it doesn't mean I am going to kill myself out of sheer depression if somebody calls me a noob but it does have an overall impact in how much we enjoy our gaming experience.
I know you aren't one to be offended by anything said on a forum, and a significant amount of the people on your side of the argument probably aren't either, but you somehow still fail to see that the actual problem is people taking offense from inconsiderate internet-strangers rather than people being inconsiderate towards internet-strangers.
This isn't necessarily about offence - it's about the kind of people you want to interact and game with. I'm not sure how anybody can honestly say they would rather interact with rude people than friendly people.
